I used to love haunted houses and watching scary movies. It was fun to be so scared that I literally jumped in my seat. The surge of adrenaline is exciting to experience but only when we know it is just for fun.
It is not fun to feel scared, anxious, or nervous about facing our fears in daily life. Scary things can paralyze us from accomplishing tasks or overcoming challenges we face. These fears are real and can hold us back from moving our lives forward in a positive way. How do we face our fears?
Become comfortable with being uncomfortable.
Jack Canfield said, “If we are not a little bit uncomfortable every day, we are not growing. All the good stuff is outside our comfort zone.”
It will always feel scary to step out of what feels comfortable to us. We have a choice: stay in the comfortable place and stay stagnant OR push ourselves out of our comfort zone and experience growth. Take one tiny step. With each step our confidence will grow, and we will be able to take another step and another. Ask yourself, “What makes me uncomfortable?”
Become comfortable with failing.
The reason so many of us stay stuck in the same place is a fear of failure. We have been taught that success means we are awesome and that failure, well, isn’t an option. What does it mean if we fail? We might recite the quote, “If we are not failing, we are not trying hard enough.” That’s reassuring.
Social media presents a different message. We blast all the positive stories but most of the time, failures are not revealed. “The platforms are designed to be addictive and are associated with anxiety, depression, and even physical ailments,” says McLeon Hospital in their article entitled, The Social Dilemma: Social Media and Your Mental Health.
We must view failure differently if we want to overcome scary things. Failure is part of learning and growing. Do not allow failure to make you feel discouraged and worthless. Ask yourself, “Am I afraid to fail?”
Become comfortable with being alone.
We can find strength in numbers. When everyone else agrees with you, it is easy to keep going in the direction you are headed. But what if you are alone and yet, you firmly believe in what you are doing?
We need to have our own backs. It does not matter what anyone else says or does, we can support ourselves and this might mean going on the journey alone. Ask yourself, “Can I do this on my own?”
Make a list of your “scary things.”
- As Halloween approaches, think about the scary things you are facing now. Write them down.
- Challenge yourself to conquer those fears and scratch them off your list one-at-a-time.
- Journal about each of the items on your list and ask yourself why they feel scary to you.
- Take the steps you need to overcome those fears!
It is time to look at those scary things in the face and say, “You are not going to hold me back!” You can do this!
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