Whenever I have had a big decision to make, I would reach out to my friends and family to confirm that I was doing the “right” thing. Most of the time I think this is a good practice. I mean, isn’t it a good idea to get a second opinion?
Easy decisions we make all day long and usually with confidence. What should I have for dinner? Easy. What should I wear? Easy. Should I go to the movies? Easy.
But when it comes to harder decisions like, should I move to another town? Or should I change jobs? Those decisions require more thought and consideration. Possibly even a second opinion.
The purpose for getting a second opinion is to make sure we have considered all the options and possibilities. Yet sometimes these second opinions make us question ourselves and confuse us even more. We might even cave in and follow what someone else thinks is best for us, but this may only lead to regret.
It is important to take these second opinions, consider all the options, and then, trust yourself to make the decision that is best for YOU! We know what we need. Trust that you know yourself.
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Thanksgiving is just around the corner. This is a holiday that encourages us to be grateful for what we have. (The actual history of the holiday is a little controversial. I will let you read about that on your own.)
What I do like about this day is taking the time to realize all that we have. More importantly, it is a fantastic time to be thankful for all the people in our lives. Our lives are enriched when we share our time with the people we care so much about.
Sending a “thank you” card seems to be an etiquette that is disappearing as technology is becoming more present. It is easier to send a text than an email, and an email is easier that writing a handwritten note.
Technology is supposed to make our lives more efficient with our time, but not meant to replace the few personal touches we have left.
This Thanksgiving, send a thank you card to all those people you care about and tell them why they mean so much to you! Your holiday will be more meaningful when you focus on others.
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I recently met a group of ladies who made an impression on me. They were getting together a few times per month to talk about how they wanted to grow in order to improve their lives. I immediately felt connected because I am always looking for ways to grow and be better.
Then it occurred to me that not all people desire this. What makes one person strive for growth, and another person seem content to remain the same. No judgment here, nor a criticism.
My conclusion is that some people were lucky enough to enjoy more positive experiences than negative. Those with more negative experiences seem to want to break that cycle and change their lives. And I am one of those people.
I have had my share of not-so-great experiences, but those things are what made me who I am today. It is those things that make me push for more and encourage me to make the changes I need to make in order to have a great life.
Personal growth is a choice. I encourage you to choose it.
You do not have to read a hundred self-help books or attend seminars or hire a life coach. All you have to do is say to yourself, I choose to grow.
Look for opportunities, everyday opportunities, that present themselves as you go about your day. If we are open to them, we will begin to see them.
For example, you may be standing in the grocery line feeling annoyed that the checker seems to be taking her little sweet time helping the customers in front of you. I have to admit that this has been me at times, especially when I have a long list of things to do that day! In this moment, decide it is an opportunity to grow.
This life lesson is a growth opportunity in patience. Change your thinking from thoughts of frustration to thoughts of patience. Maybe keep a notepad with you so at times like this, you can use the time to be productive. You could answer some emails, check your calendar, or make tomorrow’s list. Choose to grow.
I like to keep a journal and write down things about my day. I notice things about myself that I otherwise would have overlooked or forgotten. But when I write them in my journal, I can reread my thoughts and continue to learn from my own experiences.
Of course you can read books, attend seminars, and hire a life coach. You can do anything that helps you to keep moving forward in your life.
Keep growing and learning. The alternative is staying the same.
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A pile of papers on my desk is about the worst thing for me to see or clean up. It isn’t the papers on their own, it is the guilt I feel when I look at that pile! I am not sure why a pile of paper on my desk makes me feel so badly. Maybe it is because I mentally labor over what is in the pile. Is it bills? Do I have to read them? Or just file? Once the pile is gone, I feel on top of the world! Wow, the power of paper!
Here is how I handle that build up of paper piles. Let’s look at first, what to do with the pile; second, how to avoid ever having a pile accumulate; third, how to enjoy not having paper anymore!
#1. What do you do with the pile of papers?
When I am faced with the dreaded pile staring before me, I gather the entire paper pile off my desk and put it on my bed or counter so I can sort it. Next, I clean and straighten my desk. Ahhh, that feels better already! Now, I divide the big pile into several, little, separate piles: throw away, file away, bills to pay, stuff to read, stuff to do.
This process is a simple example of how to take an overwhelming task (the pile of papers) and break it into small steps (throw away, file away, etc.).
Now just deal with each pile. Throw away – easy. File away – easy, just boring. Bills to pay – put where you pay bills or just go ahead and pay them. Stuff to read – put where you like to read maybe your bedside table. Finally, stuff to do – the more difficult pile because there may be a variety of things here you need to do. Pour yourself some tea or coffee and get it done. Yay! You did it!!
#2. How to avoid accumulating a pile of papers.
This is an easy solution. Create a place for each type of pile you had in #1. I learned a simple rule about 25 years ago . . . handle paper once. You handle it when you get it. You get your mail. Open each piece of mail and as you handle it this first time, you decide where it goes. Is it a bill? Put it in your file folder or bin for bills. Does it need to be filed? Put it in your filing system (ie file it). Is it something to read like a magazine? Put it where you read. The stuff to do pile is always tricky because it may be a phone call or a response needed. Make a bin for to-do’s.
If you do this, you will not end up with a pile of papers because everything will be where it needs to be for when you are ready to do those tasks.
#3. How to not have paper anymore.
I recently went digital. I scanned in all my paper files and created digital files on my computer. I contacted all my utilities and bills to go paperless. Everything I used to file, I now get an email or pdf and I put it in the digital file. Even when shopping, I ask for email receipts instead. I even got rid of my filing cabinet! Yay!! My mail has decreased significantly and when I moved recently, I still updated my new address, but I didn’t have to worry about losing mail.
Tackle your paper, create a system, and don’t let the piles of paper get you down!
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