About ten years ago, I moved to California from the Midwest. The most difficult part of making a long distance move was leaving my friends who I had known for 25 years. I felt very isolated and alone and I wanted to make some friends.
When you are young and in school, it is easy to make friends. It was simple to bond and connect to the people that shared most of your time. As a young mother, I connected to by children’s friend’s parents. But here for the first time, I had a difficult time finding people that I could call “friend.”
I began my search for friends the same way I begin most journeys . . . I did a little research. Actually, I googled, “how to make friends.” I read articles about friendship and what kind of people I wanted in my life.
The people you share your life with become influences on how you will live. It is important therefore, to surround yourself with the people that you would like to become. The best relationships are those that you share similar values. So I wasn’t looking for just anyone to hang out with. I wanted people who would push me to grow, value the same things, and enjoy similar interests.
The next part to making friends is putting yourself out there, so-to-speak. You have to meet people, lots of people, to find those that you can connect with.
1. Do the things you love doing. Go hiking, biking, or swimming. Just get out there are do what you love.
2. Join meetups. Sign up for events and go.
3. Take classes. Learn new skills or knowledge.
4. Become a member. Join a gym, book club, or art group.
Once you are at these activities or events, start conversations. Introduce yourself and get to know other people. Exchange phone numbers and meet for coffee or dinner. Chances are those people are looking for a friend too!
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I heard the saying, “We are the sum of our daily habits.” (If you know who said this, please add it to the comments below so I can give them credit.)
I remind myself of this at times when I wish I had eaten healthier and am feeling sick. Or when I need a skill that I put off learning. Or when I am behind on a deadline and wish I had worked a little harder.
The things we do daily, like eat well, exercise, read, and learn, are the very things that move our life forward. These important daily habits are the things that make us grow as a person. All it takes is doing a little each day, every day, or at least regularly.
Many of the goals we have can only be achieved by these daily habits. For example, we can’t lose that ten pounds by eating healthy for a week and then going back to our old way of eating. But we can drop that ten pounds and keep it off by establishing daily healthy habits.
It is so easy to wish for things to be different; the hard part is making the daily changes we need to make.
Think about where/what you would like to be in three months, six months, or one year. Would you like to learn something new, or exercise more, or just be healthier? Then ask yourself, “What one daily habit can you do to achieve this goal?”
Do a little each day and you will be so happy in a few months!
Check out these blog posts to add a new habit to your morning routine or evening routine.
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Are your shoes in a pile at the back of your closet? Is it hard to find the shoes you need for work tomorrow? Here are a few tips for organizing all your shoes.
The first thing to do before you organize is to sort and get rid of unwanted shoes or those you haven’t worn in more than a year. If you aren’t wearing them regularly, than chances are you won’t miss them either.
After you have sorted your shoes, divide them into two piles: those you wear often (every week) and those you wear occasionally.
I like to use shoe racks or shelves lined up at the bottom of my closet for all the shoes that I wear frequently. They are easier to find and put back when all I have to do is reach for them. There are also hanging style shoe holders that work too.
For the less worn shoes, I like to store them in clear plastic shoe containers on the shelf at the top of my closet. I can see what shoes are inside at a glance and even though it is a little harder to reach for them, it is okay because I don’t wear these as often.
This system works for me because I can rotate my shoes. During the summer, my sandals are out where I can reach them and winter shoes are put on the shelf. In the winter, I put my sandals away and bring out my booties. Each season, I am moving my shoes around so I am constantly sorting and updating them.
A little tip for knee high boots is to cut one of those swimming pool noodles to fit inside your boot. The noodles look like long tubes and usually can be cut in about three or four pieces depending on how tall your boots are. I insert this piece inside my boots to help them stand upright, keeping their shape.
Have fun organizing!
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