I used to love to read, The Little Engine That Could to my boys when they were small. I wanted them to grow up knowing they could do anything they set their minds to do. Even when all the odds are against us, if we believe we can make a difference, we usually can. We have to believe in ourselves when no one else does.

Just like values, beliefs also motivate our behavior. When we have a behavior we want to change, it is important to figure out what is the belief behind that behavior. Once we change the belief, the behavior will automatically change too. For example, when a person with stress finds comfort in food, they believe the food will make them feel better. But they could change this belief about food, and replace it with, “Food will not make me feel better, but taking a walk will help.”

So the next time you recognize a behavior you want to change, ask yourself what is the belief behind this action?

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